There are so many types of rules : inner and moral rules, the laws, the norms of a society, and even some unspoken rules !
These rules don’t interest me that much today. I want to track the way we interact with them… – for the laws of your country, just follow, OK ? C’est d’accord ? Oui.
What do you do with rules when you feel that they’re not OK any more ?
You can obey them, though, persistently, “because they are rules”. Follow morality (which says always : “Don’t”) and try to find happiness into that !
You can keep them but follow your inner new ones. You can do that for a while only, like putting a augmented reality mask built by you, on old rules.
Yes you can bend rules, just a little – I know, this sounds very French, probably (we like to cross roads out of zebras). Testing the elasticity of rules in a national sport, in my country.
You can sparkle. You follow the rules but for one second you don’t. Hop ! Once, you decide to say “Yes !”. Then back to the track, immédiatement ! Or…not.
There’s an old good book called “The Strategy of the Dolphin”. The authors divide human beings in “Carps” (no invention, total obedience, etc), “Sharks” (rebellion, agression), and “Dolphins” of course – who move elegantly, are fast and inventive.
Something’s interesting about rules : it’s when a person FIGHTS with himself or herself, between “obey the rules” and “these are not effective or useful NOW”. It’s a terrible spinning hesitation process !
You can stop the spinning being a carp : you shut up and obey rules. Your life is simple, black and white, you follow rules, morality and orders.
You can stop the spinning being a shark : you bite the rules and you don’t care more. You just run like a fool, a rebel who doesn’t care about the others or about damages.
You can stop the spinning being a dolphin : you dance with the rules when they’re OK or not, and you adapt, you are fast and elegant. You decide your life and your actions. You are able to invent your own rules, even for a moment. Everybody wins around you, as much as possible, because you like that ! You live in movement, in colors, you are a good Queen or a good King. You can’t leash a dolphin, anyway. Bravo !
La valeur est souvent conférée. Values of things are conferred…