One day I heard an interview of F. Luchini, a French actor, who explained that in the beginning of a love story, he gave a rendez-vous with his lover in Paris, in a street, in front of a theater, and when he saw her coming, she was wearing an ugly scarf, so ugly it became comme un caillou dans sa chaussure, like a stone in his shoe : for the rest of the day he couldn’t really focus, and in the end… he knew this relationship would be impossible.
I found it pretty rude – everybody makes mistakes (like wearing anything cheetah for women or like sandals & socks for men). But it was probably a good symbol for what happens – with more subtleties – in all beginnings.
In love stories : bad faith (“I’ve never said that!”), playing the victim, not really listening, lies, a will to change you, greed, constant gossips, wearthercocking, etc… It’s an interesting field to study – including our ways of being blind in front of it!
A few days ago I watched Mary and the Witch’s Flower, a Japanese animated movie, the first one from a new studio (founded by guys from Ghibli). I was pretty happy to watch it, and then… bad signs, in a row :
- The first one is the script. Here you are with characters you don’t really care about, in a story you constantly want to sigh about.
- The second one is : they stole everything they could from the Master (Miyazaki) : a redhead character (Ponyo), a girl/witch with a broom and a cat (Kiki), a way to watch nature, a weird old principal (Chihiro), etc. Add the “school for wizards” and a mark in her hands (not on her forehead, haha), and you sigh more and more.
- The third one is very small, and it’s been the worse : useless pressing dialog. For example : In the night, Mary is in her room. She hears a strange noise outside. She turns her head towards the window, and says “What’s that strange noise?”. PFFFF sorry if I roll my eyes but not sorry. Miyazaki would have never allowed that. Show, don’t tell, silly!
Bad signs are signs you have to stop the movie you’re watching. It’s your instinct and your experience talking to you. Therefore I did stop the movie.
And then all the questions about bad signs :
- Can we sort them in categories?
- Is it unfair? Can we be wrong?
- After a first bad sign do we switch on our alert probes? To check & detect more?
- Can we be lured? On purpose? Bad signs as manipulation?
- Do we disguise “it’s to difficult for me” into bad signs?
- What is it “to insist despite of bad signs”?
- When does our brain stay blind?
- Bad signs in a love affair, in fandom, in business, in a job interview?
- Resistance to change?
- Detection : instinct or intelligence?
- What if you’re prisoner with bad signs around?
- Something bad… but no bad signs at all. What the?
Hmmm… are there real, unfailing, solid bad signs? Like, well, sandals & socks?
OK, THAT is impossible, right?
Thanks for reading!