“Perhaps the most devastating and damaging thing that can happen to someone is to fail to fulfill his potential. A kind of gnawing emptiness, longing, frustration, and displaced anger overwhelms people when this occurs. Whether the anger is turned inward on the self, or outward towards others, dreadful destruction results.”
In France we have a different expression for “Fly off the handle” or “Blow his top” : Sortir de ses gonds
The “gonds” are the “door hinges” in French. So when someone is very angry we say “He’s out of his hinges”. In a way, I like this idiom. It means… “Ho ho…”. What can happen to a door out of its hinges, after all? It could be noisy, right?
So when someone blows his top, if there’s no plates flying, he or she SAYS things. And if you have a little common sense, you just don’t listen, or if you listen, you don’t answer. Because top blowing words fly off the handle over the roof, right?
Don’t pay attention. It’s a steam thing. Smile, but don’t show it : inside your belly.
If you need it, smash it back. Be angry. Scream louder. You are badly offended! Your feelings are hurt!
You can take seriously what shouldn’t been taken seriously, just because
Venting on paper is a good trick I got from a friend. It looks like a chamanic exercise, but it works pretty well.
When you have something to say, something to vent, you can find a friend of course, and this could be the subject of another article. You can also vent your anger or your worries to the person who is the SOURCE of all this mess. It’s sometimes necessary, but it can leads to a real fight !
This tool says : write it on paper as fast as you can, then DO NOT re-read it (should I say reread or read over ?), then burn it somewhere. It’s gone.
In fact, it works if you type it on your Macintosh, silly. Write a furious letter to nobody and then, just do not send it, simple as that ! Save it. You can read over, that’s harmless.
Fact is : when you vented on paper (or on your computer), the steam is a bit off your head, you organized your furiosa in words, that’s good. Your brain can breathe a little better. Good to you.