Big Talkey, Little Doey
We all have a friend, this friend, promising after a drinking night, from a hangovering moody mouth : “I will never drink anymore”.
Yeah yeah yeah…
Hearing “big statements” is sometimes a little embarrassing.
What do you answer to “I never lie”, or “my couple is perfect”, or “I will love him forever”? Nothing : you just… nod in agreement, right?
What does it mean? What does it say? What does it show?
The Science of Bullshittery should be written!
You have to study the bigstatementers, but also their audience.
“I stop smoking tomorrow” leaves the audience in a skeptical mood. “I’m writing a novel” goes the same – writers rarely say to anyone who would listen that they’re writing a book. They just write…
Sadder : when someone says : “I live a happy life”. You’re like “Oh, come on… Why would one NEED to proclaim that?”. We all know that we all struggle at times, and that we are happy sometimes, too. There’s no need for bigstatementery here, unless you…
Thus, hearing Big Statements invites you to think. Maybe you have to do as if you were believing them. Maybe you should show empathy and ask for subtleties. Maybe just say : “Let’s talk about it”. Being sarcastic doesn’t help. It rarely does.
In A Matter of Lever, two years ago, I quoted J. L. Borges (well, I tried to English translate it), who summarizes all of it this way :
Not the simplicity, which is senseless, but secret and modest complexity
Well, that’s it!
Oh. Efff. Isn’t it a Big Statement? Awweeee…
Have a nice day!
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