“Undering yourself to watch around” – Yep, clearly that’s not English. Sorry.
The whole society play makes us wear masks. This theater needs us to “operate” fluidly, so we hide our mess, our worries, our anger and the rest.
We all have many masks in our basket, and we often need several at the same time. Use “Competent”, “Quiet” and “Focused” (when we have no idea what’s going on, boiling inside in front of so much stupidity).
Some days, we need to be an idiot.
It’s very hard when you’re young, because young people are terrified to be judged and to “look ridiculous”. But well, you know, at one moment you really don’t care, because you know what you’re worth (is this even English?), where you’re good or not, and you just do your thing.
Therefore : in some circumstances, I wear quirky clothes. No, not quirky, but something a little ugly, or unfitting, or colors who shouldn’t be together. I want the other ones to judge me as an innocent moron. They smile inside. That’s good : exactly what I need!
In a way, it’s not “dress to impress”, but “dress to unimpress”.
Then you mix it with the way you talk. Chose your weapon : lose confidence, hide expertise, bury volubility, etc. It’s like a Sun Tzu strategy : let the enemy deploy its talent. They are so proud to be above, oui?
Of course, you have to waltz this your way.
- You can absolutely transform yourself into what you can (cursor down anything you are, including beauty) in a few seconds (when you enter a room, for example).
- You also can appear as an averagetard but sparkle some smart unforseen sentences, if you are fast (I’m not) : it’ll unsettle who needs to be.
- Slide & don’t bear down.
Voilà. I would like to add this :
You of course bien sûr have to do this rarely, only in front of dumb tyrants, dangerous idiots and proud braggarts. You’ll unbrag them one day or another, or not – who cares?
There’s a lukewarm version of this tool. Just being grey, a mouse, a watching silent brain.
Paradise is when someone gets you “as you are”. It becomes fast and easy to work and function with this person. Little by little, you don’t need masks anymore. Fluent relationships (in life, work, anywhere) are blissful bliss.
Thanks for reading!