People underestimate kids, right?
- Someone hears a sound, and doesn’t understand what it is about
- Then hears it’s a voice – of unknown words
- Then hears it’s his language, but doesn’t understand the phrases
- Then gets the phrases, but doesn’t get what one is talking about
- Then understands and stands up
Les enfants aux ailes de rue – Street-Winged Children.
It’s time to repost this : Some French feel-good movies to choose from
Exploring mood? Google “Best Albums 2017”. I’m on it! What are yours?
In a conversation about things and events and ideas, do you focus on the sense and the logic, or on what you feel, the specifics? That’s a real question…
Oh, both, dear : naturally. How to weave/dance? Finding invariances in the particulars…
Serenity as a sign of love.
A good friend, or your child, has a problem, an hesitation. Needs you. You then develop a big bubble of attention, a gigantic ear. You focus & try to ask questions – useless or trappy or good questions. The purpose is to help him/her to give birth to a solution – to help the depuzzlement process…
À l’aurore, armés d’une ardente patience, nous entrerons aux splendides Villes.
In the dawn, armed with a burning patience, we shall enter the splendid Cities.
Here’s a secret (or a question) :
People have different burdens, different ways to be bereaved (“deprived of loved ones”).
I remember telling a friend, in a letter, more than twenty years ago, about my difficulties with my lover, who had lost her mother at the age of 11.
“Go to the cemetery, with her”, she answered. Ohhh…
There are many types of bereavement : death, cutting bonds because of serious misconduct, friendship loss, remoteness… It creates, I’m sure, a black veil, with a crow under. Who can pinch. It’s maybe our responsibility to come close to the veil and whisper : “Let’s go to the cemetery”.
Talking about a dark past, wrong choices from people you loved, or the loss of a mother. Holding up (a little) the veil. See if there’s a sail under, ready to inflate and breathe. Or not.
Who will be the one who says : “Let’s talk about the past”? What can it bring? What if the answer is “No, never”?
Forgetting the past to move forward is like to erase maps and the knowledge on the maps.
My friend was a teacher for kids “with big problems”. She wrote me a long letter about these children who became worried – thus violent – when they began to understand that a special freedom comes from… learning. Then, she said, they go on, and calm down.
Interesting situation, when you want the balance to change but the other one doesn’t want the balance to change.
Funnier : you want to change something, but the other one wants to change another thing. Here you are both of you pushing on different doors…
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