Readiness & Availability VS Habits & Goals

Just seeds, ideas. Fight them. Or dance.

The habit pulls apart : you know something so much that you’re cut from it. The force of habit separates you from things.

The goal you’re staring at… can cut you from what’s happening now, next to you. Each time you say “I must”, maybe you lose something.

Whitehead says : “We think in generalities, but we live in detail

Readiness & Availability, these are two English words I love together. Habits, Goals and Rules, then tend to kill me. French casualness? What happens NOW?

You can read : The Propensity of Things

Thanks!

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Uncontrol the Controllable – The Chardonnay Effect

“Control the controllable”, I read one day on a blog (about how to avoid stress, I think). This sounded like a generalization of Marcus Aurelius‘s quote :

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”

…and I liked it. Control the controllable (which is your mind). Power and concision of English language!

Seneca says something like :

“We suffer more often in imagination than in reality”

…which is complementary, right? What is uncontrollable, now, though?

MMmhhhh. Epictetus can help us here :

“Make the best use of what is in your power, and take the rest as it happens.”

(I bolded the bold). It seems that philosophers from Antiquity had some thinkings about life, right? “As it happens” (Amor fati, etc).

Love what happens…

My article is about : what if, for a moment,  I do not want to control what I could control. Uncontrol the controllable. “Make the best use of what is in your power” can then become for me… to smile and listen to propositions of life.

I call it the Chardonnay effect.

Chardonnay is a French white wine. It seems to have a strange effect : I forget “rules and regulations”, I have less desires to control what I can control. I open some doors and paths, just to see. Don’t drink too much, though!

Thanks to some French Magic, I seem to be more able to enjoy the moment, extend possibilities, be in place, and realize that life is too short to CONTROL EVERYTHING.

Well, Chardonnay (and okey, other wines too, probably, LOL) have the capacity to make me decide to let go, to dance. With the ability – I hope – to recontrol if necessary, right?

Royksöpp, in this song, says the dangers of uncontrolling this way, though :

I still don’t know just what I’ve done
I don’t remember anymore what I used to be

OK, but what side doesn’t remember the other one? Is there a danger to begin to love the uncontrol? Is there a conflict between guts and reason? What kind of dance is it, then, between Face A and B, forest and trees, pleasure and rules, opening doors and lukewarm but necessary important security behind closed ones? Jekyll and Hyde? What kind of door is it, between the two?

Don’t drink, stay in control. Voilà.

Cheers! A la bonne vôtre !

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The will to make of every single day a piece of art

“Vouloir faire de chaque jour une oeuvre d’art” ?

“Willing to make of every single day a piece of art”?

  • Because I’m smart and I want everybody to know it
  • Because down with the lukewarm and reasonable people they are all zombies
  • Because humdrummingcommute eat work sleep daily routine grindbores me
  • Because I’m afraid of the empty
  • Because it arrows me a goal a structure
  • Because I’m different or at least I feel different from the others
  • Because it positions myself in the artists category it’s so rewarding
  • Because I want to be noticed to be loved
  • Because it’s original and uncommon is good I think
  • Because I need to add some intensity to my life
  • Because without that I’m bored and boring
  • Because I have the slave soul I love obligations and pressure
  • Because to decree oneself rules and servitude is so romantic and exhilarating
  • Because to be a watcher is not enough and I want to be a part of human beings busyness
  • Because I want to reach an enthralling life and without it it is not
  • Because I like to control and organize
  • Because it’s fun
  • Because it keeps me busy busy
  • Because I want to let a mark an imprint

 

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“Bake Two Cakes”, or the dangers of segmentarity

Are you learning, or playing? Choose!

Are you a novel writer or an essay writer? Choose!

Are you doing this, or that? Choose!

  • “You should do what you are supposed to do”.
  • “You can’t do two things at the same time”.
  • “You should absolutely obey the norms”.
  • “You can’t have both”.

But sometimes you don’t choose, you just don’t want to. You change, you do both, you try things, you wonder, you explore.

The danger of segmentarity is the belief that you cannot have your cake and eat it. In fact, you can : bake two cakes!

Tool : Stay organized, and conform to customs and laws of your country. But don’t ignore you also comply to absurd “rules” which really don’t exist. Beware of social pressure, beware to invented stupid rules and “obvious” expectations : this obviousness is a bubble. Burst it!

Thanks for reading!

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Obedient “to the finger and the eye” is the French “beck and call”

“Obéir au doigt et à l’œil” (“to obey the finger and the eye”) is the French way to say that you’re at somebody’s beck and call.

I found out that it comes from “beckon call”, which makes sense, right? By the way, I learned a word : Beckon – “gesture to come”. 

How do you say that in your language? In common use, what’s the radioactivity of “beckon”? Is it neutral like “to call over”? Or does in imply a little slice of servitude? What are the differences between to yield, to comply, to obey, to submit?

What are the dials and levers here? If you’re at somebody’s beck and call, what does it show? Is it about fear? Power? Is it about persons, or systems, companies?

What about the beckoning person? How come this person expects you to act this way? Has he enough power to get you back in “the right track”? Or does he have to understand that “people are not all obedient”? What a shock!

What happens, in a situation where you’re supposed to comply and you don’t? Failure to comply, disobedience, rebelliousness? Why would you? A frontier has been crossed? Did you change? Did you grow up? Has the whole system changed? Did you change your mind? Why?

In what territory to study this? Kingdom? Management? Spouses? Clients/employees? Politics? Parenting? What are the limits of beck and calling?

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How to stop spinning around damn rules

There are so many types of rules : inner and moral rules, the laws, the norms of a society, and even some unspoken rules !

These rules don’t interest me that much today. I want to track the way we interact with them… – for the laws of your country, just follow, OK ? C’est d’accord ? Oui.

What do you do with rules when you feel that they’re not OK any more ?

You can obey them, though, persistently, “because they are rules”. Follow morality (which says always : “Don’t”) and try to find happiness into that !

You can keep them but follow your inner new ones. You can do that for a while only, like putting a augmented reality mask built by you, on old rules.

Yes you can bend rules, just a little – I know, this sounds very French, probably (we like to cross roads out of zebras). Testing the elasticity of rules in a national sport, in my country.

You can sparkle. You follow the rules but for one second you don’t. Hop ! Once, you decide to say “Yes !”. Then back to the track, immédiatement ! Or…not.

There’s an old good book called “The Strategy of the Dolphin”. The authors divide human beings in “Carps” (no invention, total obedience, etc), “Sharks” (rebellion, agression), and “Dolphins” of course – who move elegantly, are fast and inventive.

Something’s interesting about rules : it’s when a person FIGHTS with himself or herself, between “obey the rules” and “these are not effective or useful NOW”. It’s a terrible spinning hesitation process !

Lever :

You can stop the spinning being a carp : you shut up and obey rules. Your life is simple, black and white, you follow rules, morality and orders.

You can stop the spinning being a shark : you bite the rules and you don’t care more. You just run like a fool, a rebel who doesn’t care about the others or about damages.

You can stop the spinning being a dolphin : you dance with the rules when they’re OK or not, and you adapt, you are fast and elegant. You decide your life and your actions. You are able to invent your own rules, even for a moment. Everybody wins around you, as much as possible, because you like that ! You live in movement, in colors, you are a good Queen or a good King. You can’t leash a dolphin, anyway. Bravo !

La valeur est souvent conférée. Values of things are conferred…

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