I needed to be in my fifties to hear about this concept of “anhedonia“, a diverse array of deficits in hedonic function, including reduced motivation or ability to experience pleasure. (Wikipedia).
Inability to experience pleasure, but also reduced
- anticipatory pleasure
- consummatory pleasure
Well : the wanting and the liking are reduced. A big lost of interest!
This preliminary itself is interesting : it’s NOT depression. It’s just what we call in French “à quoi bon ?” : what’s the point, what’s the use, what good would it…, etc…
Association with boredom, a will to stay in bed, a will to sleep all the time! You can feel this even without being sad!
If one makes, in a good movement, an effort – like me with this article – one will stop very soon, because… what’s the point, right?
It’s sometimes a bit surprising, because in the past you LOVED to do it, right?
Then there’s probobly a seek for… oblivion. Video games? Stupid sports? Alcohol?
It can be helpful, after all, and more if you feel guilty! (because in our societies, one has to be busy, right?).
Anything vain will maybe help, like driving your car in the night, anywhere, for hours, with music.
And there are the old tricks : call a friend, get drunk, pick up a randombook, listen to some music, trance (go dancing?), shopping. It can work!
But most of the time, you don’t care about all this anymore… either!
Of course here I don’t talk about “major depressive disorders”, where you stay in bed crying or in catatonia for months.
No, it’s just the “not in the mood now”, a social detachment, random indifference…
We’ve all been there, right? Our mind like a Steve Reich music…
I am also convinced it can be linked to a loss. When you’ve been at war, for example, you’re into a “mode”, and then when you’re home you’re just… not bored, but not valued, not understood, alone, and you don’t understand what people do anymore. And lifting weighs seems suddenly… what’s the point?
What happens after a break up?
Wiki says : “There is no validated treatment for social anhedonia.”. Voilà !
I just found another word to explore : “Avolition”.
How do you deal with that? What if it becomes a constant mode? How to get out?
For me :
- I do a little step anywhere. It can trigger…
- A good book. There’s no better trick.
Thanks for reading!