When I was in my twenties I was reading all Chögyam Trungpa‘s books. This guy (a “preeminent teacher of Tibetan Buddhism”) taught me many things. One of them was :
“Let go when someone tells you to get lost”
Trungpa says that if you nag & beg this person, then you’ll become a demon (he uses this word). I didn’t find again the exact quote, but I remember he was also talking about this image :
- The rejecter is walking, he says “get lost”.
- The rejected is begging and becomes a demon.
Well, I think we’ve all been there, that makes sense, right? This article is about what happens next.
- The rejected understands.
- Stops walking, and shuts up.
- (It’s his way to say : “Fine! Get lost too!”)
- He walks again, back on his own path.
- Silent double walk.
See me coming? Yes you do! OK, take a deep breath and visualize this :
- The rejecter slows down, now, thoughtfully.
- Then he walks in front of the other walker.
- He says : “Let’s talk”.
- The other walker doesn’t slow down, thinking the three-letters : “WTF”.
- He walks, it’s his turn to say “Get lost!”.
It’s why I called quirky this strange dance, which exist between complicated lovers of course, but also between friends, family, spouses, siblings, companies, etc.
The rejecter rejects then is being rejected by the one he rejected when he doesn’t want to reject the other one anymore.
Make a loop of this. Dance.
Dial, then Lever :
What do we do of this dial? What does that mean? Is there an invisible string between the two walkers, a bond? What should they do? What should they say? How to stop the dance? Walk on more distant path? Having fun eventually? Realize it’s a dance and it could be great? Tango?
Thanks for reading!
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